SETTLING FOR THE SAKE OF SETTLING DOWN

Soooooo... One of my very good friends, Mrs. Mama, (you could even call her my sister) and I were preparing for her graduation party (finally... 4 months after the actual graduation). I met Mrs. Mama through my sister and our relationship really blossomed since then. We're about the same age and have pretty similar personalities. Only difference is that our lives are at two completely places right now. As you know I'm a single still living at home and stuck in a dead end job at Feminist Inc. that I halfway hate. On the other hand, Mrs. Mama is married and lives in a 4 bedroom house with her amazing husband and 2 great kids. Oh and did I mention (you guessed it) she's a stay at home mom! Other than these major differences in our lives we always have great conversation and can talk to each other about anything.

On to the real story... I'm standing in the kitchen (after we took the baby back up to bed after taking his diaper off and coming downstairs to see what we were doing) preparing a delicious pasta salad for the shindig the following day when our conversation took an unexpected turn


Mrs. Mama: So... When are you going to settle down"


(To which I dumbfoundedly replied)


Me: What do you mean by that?


Mrs. Mama: Well, I know you been dating a lot and I don't want you to be too busy with


so many guys that you miss out on a good one.


Me: Really Mrs. Mama who the hell am I gonna settle down with... are you serious!


Mrs Mama: Yea... I'm just saying it would be cool for us to do couple things together.


Me: Well when I find someone to settle down with... I will! Until then... You're stuck with just me.


Can you say Awkward!!! Uhhhhh... Just a little! But it did make me think and do some things that I shouldn't have, like contact an old flame. Now, although I don't talk to him often, when we do talk it always goes back to the same old "I still care about you and I hope we get back together" conversation that I've heard (and been a part of) one too many times. After that conversation a bunch of random thoughts went through my head such as:

• Our relationship wasn't bad



• We did look really cute together



• Our kids would be cute



• I guess I could support him for a little while longer



• His smoking isn't that bad and my parents smoke so I can deal with it

At that point my sassy side punched my fairytale side square in the face and I came back to reality. But it did make me think... society tells us that a woman of my age (a very young 26) should be "settling down". Not saying that I'm not ready to settle down... But is it time for me to think about just plain settling already? Are my expectations for a potential mate too high? As you know I have been dating a lot lately. Making changes in the line-up almost daily. Lunch with this one, texting that one, hanging out with the other one, all this is starting to get old ! I've even been stepping wayyyyy outside my box just to see if there was anything that I might be missing. Guys wayyy too squishy, wayyy too young, wayyy too much hair, wayyy too busy, wayyy too weird. I can go on and on and on and on... you get the point! I'm talking all over the world map (not just the U.S.) but I think all this is to make up one ideal guy.

All these guys I see for one reason or another but none of them are at all the total package. Some I have great connection and conversation with but not at all attracted to or who i see myself with. Some are super smokin' HOT but are as dumb as a bag of rocks. While others are so incredibly intelligent but are so awkward and weird it makes me want to shoot myself in the head! In any case I guess my hunt for suitable time filler continues because looking for Mr. Right is asking too much.

Moral of the story: I refuse to settle for the sake of settling down!!!

I'M WAYYY TOO CUTE FOR THAT!!